Follow these 4 rules.
do you know that feeling when someone screws you over and all you can think about is getting revenge?
Let me let you in on a little secret.
Something you probably already know.
Revenge is never the answer that will make you satisfied
Here is the truth:
Forgiveness isn't about other people it's about you.
It's about you putting your peace first.
Why wouldn't you put your own peace first?
Do you like carrying extra chains around?
I don't think so...
While it may seem as the easiest thing to do, it will always leave you empty and satisfied and without results.
Think of your life as a garden where all your thoughts are the seeds to plant in the ground.
Resentments are the weeds that are choking and ruining your garden.
Revenge is picking all those weeds while you're damaging the foundation under your own feet.
Forgiveness is the sunlight breaking through every cloud, and making sure the weeds burn themselves and eventually starve off.
And here's something most people get wrong.
Forgiveness doesn't necessarily mean you forget, it doesn't mean you invite the weeds back into your garden.
It means you stop letting them enter your garden again.
It means being prepared for whatever might happen in the future and not letting yourself get into the same mess again.
So how do we forgive?
There are 4 steps when it comes to forgiveness.
Acceptance
Whatever happened in the past has been done.
You can't time travel,
so you better learn to accept and get ready to move on.
Zoom out
Take a step back, try looking at the bigger picture.
Hard as it may seem, try putting yourself in the position of whatever hurt you.
This might shine a new light on the situation.
Life is all about perspective.
Cut the cord
Always choose order over chaos.
Focus on the future not on the past.
Let go of every bit of resentment.
Don't let what hurt you in the past keep hurting you in the future.
It's time to cut the cord.
Focus on the new opportunities that will come your way.
Build
Now, don't just sit there, thinking it won't ever happen again.
Build yourself back up.
Provide meaning, trough action.
Whenever you feel a little resentment creeping into your own thoughts again, make sure you replace it with something better.
Let it drive you and motivate you to become the best version of yourself.
But wait there's more!
Understand these 4 rules:
It's not approval
Forgiveness doesn't mean someone's of the hook.
It's never a get out of jail free card, it's a I'm done suffering card.
Don't pressure timelines
Someone wounds heal quickly, some take years.
Forgiveness doesn't have a dedicated time slot.
Make sure to always forgive at your own pace.
You set boundaries
Letting go doesn't mean letting back in.
You control the sequence of events.
Build a shield if you have to, just make sure you can carry the weight.
You're allowed to celebrate.
Every grudge, you drop is a trophy you hold.
Don't be afraid to be proud of your own actions and decisions.
So there you go, now it's time for you to get out there and break some chains if you have to.
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